Bridesmaid Boot Camp: The Perfect Maid of Honor Speech

Welcome back to our fifth and final week of Bridesmaid Boot Camp! This week we’re teaching you how to write the perfect maid of honor toast.

Unless you were born with Jennifer Lawrence’s charisma and Tina Fey’s writing skills, the thought of writing and performing a speech in front of 200 people can be incredibly intimidating. There’s a lot of pressure: to be funny, to be heartfelt, to say something brilliant, to make people tear up, to remain composed, to be memorable.

Take a deep breath, because we are here to help! We’ve come up with a list of the most common MOH speech mistakes and figured out how to avoid them.

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Mistake 1: Not preparing properly, so your speech is awkward and scatter-brained.
Start writing your speech at least one month before the wedding. You’ll have enough time to brainstorm, write out a few drafts, edit, and most importantly, practice! Practice really does make perfect, so run through your speech in the shower, on your drive to work, in front of your dog. Don’t forget to ask for feedback, too. When it comes to giving your toast, there is no shame in having notes, so use them if you need to (and have multiple copies on hand).

Mistake 2: Making your toast too short or too long.
A toast should be 1-3 minutes long. Any shorter will look like you didn’t put though into it and any longer will put the guests to sleep.

Mistake 3: Trying to hard to be funny or original.
If you aren’t naturally a witty person, now is not the time to pretend you are. As cheesy as it sounds, just be yourself! A good speech doesn’t have to have the audience rolling on the floor laughing, it just has to be from the heart.

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Mistake 4: Drinking too much before your toast.
There’s no harm in having a drink or two to give you a little confidence boost before you grab the mic. But no one wants to be remembered as the sloshed bridesmaid who fell over mid-speech. It will definitely get captured by the photographer or videographer. #awkward

Mistake 5: Forgetting that the speech is about THE COUPLE.
Obviously as the MOH you are representing the bride, so a good chunk of your toast should be focused on her and your relationship and memories with her. But don’t forget the groom! Share anecdotes on the moment you realized they were meant for each other or that he was a keeper. And, of course, raise a glass to their prosperous future together at the end!

That concludes Bridesmaid Boot Camp! We hope you enjoyed learning about our tips and tricks to being a rock star bridesmaid. If there are any questions we left unanswered, tweet them to us 🙂

-Maggie